Behaviors & attitudes that affect ministry. What can we do about it?

If you’ve worked in ministry for a while, you have come face-to-face with many questionable behaviors and attitudes. I’ve met Christians who have “walked with Christ” for more than 10 or 20 years. Even 50 years! Awesome, huh? But the problem is that you’d think they started to “walk” yesterday.

Allow me to explain……

Christians aren’t perfect, but we should work together, as one. We are one body of Christ, not twenty. Unfortunately,  a few people claim to “walk right”, but the”old man” follows them around.

For example, we ask for her advice on a ministry opportunity or event, and she has many excuses as to why it wouldn’t work. She is negative, refuses to help, but then complains of the outcome. If we don’t feel it is the right opportunity, pray about it. Perhaps, God wants us to take on that ministry opportunity or role. How do we know if we don’t pray about it?

Phillipians 2:14-15 says,

Do all things without murmurings and disputings: That ye may be blameless and harmless, the sons of God, without rebuke, in the midst of a crooked and perverse nation, among whom ye shine as lights in the world;

Scripture is clear, do not murmur or dispute about ANYTHING!  Do NOT complain. Why? God is telling us, via His Word, that He doesn’t want us doing so. Let’s obey.

Let’s go deeper!

We should set the example (John 13:14-16). We are the salt of the earth (Matthew 5:12-14). We should lead lives differently than those of this world (Romans 12:2). We shouldn’t give anyone a reason to criticize us (Phillipians 2:15). What will they think of Jesus? We are His ambassadors after all, aren’t we?

In my experience working in ministry, I’ve observed behavior and attitudes that should not form part of a Christian’s life.

Below are a few that I’ve witnessed. (I am sure there are more!!)

  1. Controlling: Some people cannot handle not being in control. If ministry doesn’t move forward their way, we hear about it. It’s not about the “self”, it’s about the body of Christ. We do what God tells us to do, it’s not what we want to do. (Deuteronomy 11:26-28)
  2.  Jealousy: She takes her eyes off of Jesus and looks at man (Hebrews 12:2). She looks at the accomplishments of others instead of focusing on her own. She is never content and covets what her neighbor has (Exodus 20:17). If we walk in the Spirit, we understand that all we do as the body of Christ is to build the church, not the self. (1 Corinthians 12)
  3. Self-Centeredness: If she isn’t the center of attention or isn’t called to take part in the service, she gets angry, jealous and complains. And when we ask her to help in other areas, she rebels. It’s not about what pleases you. It’s about what is pleasing to God. Are you pleasing God? (1 Corinthians 3:2-4) If one isn’t submitted to God, how do we expect to take part in service?
  4. Discontentment: Nothing is ever good enough. Everything we do in ministry is a problem or not right. She doesn’t contribute to the cause and she isn’t happy with the outcome either. Again, it’s God’s way, not ours. He will use whomever He wants to complete a mission. (Philippians 4:11-13)
  5. Laziness: She wants the ministry to progress, but she never volunteers to help. Someone asks her to do something and she never responds with a “yes or no”. Years go by and she still sits in the pew. She isn’t motivated to take on her ministry. How can you say that you love God and His ministry, but you don’t step out in faith?  (Hebrews 6:11-13)

I’m sure you’ve heard this expression, “If you have nothing nice to say, don’t say anything at all.” Well, if you have nothing to add, sit quietly, pray for God’s ministry, and let others work. There is no reason to add drama when all we try to do is bring souls to Christ. There is no need to go into a long excuse about why you can’t do it, why the idea won’t work, etc. Let God work. Walk by faith, not by sight (2 Corinthians 5:6-10).

How do these attitudes and behaviors affect ministry?

  1. It slows down ministry as the focus is no longer on it.
  2. It discourages the body of Christ.
  3. It adds stress to the brethren.
  4. It tears town the body of Christ.
  5. It sets a bad example for newborn Christians.
  6. It ruins our testimony before others.
  7. The body of Christ and ministry suffers because talents are not being used to its full potential.
  8. We aren’t reaching “lost souls” fast enough because we focus on “putting out the fires”.

Ministry isn’t a straight line, it looks more like a zig zag and circles. God has the last say in the matter. We should aim to emulate Jesus, not man.

Let’s be real! Be honest with yourself.

Are we failing to live a life that is pleasing to God ? What kind of example are we setting as Christians? Are we a walking testimony? Are we full of drama? Is the “old man” attached to our hip?

My desire is to see the brethren move forward in their ministry, calling or personal endeavors. But no one can force a person to take on the cross. All I can do is pray that the Lord will deliver her and ignite passion in her soul and for His ministry.

While I realize that this post is harsh, we should speak truth. However, we cannot leave this post without a few tips that will encourage us in ministry.

What should Christians do?

Pray. Pray. Pray. Sometimes, it is easy to open our mouths and tell that person a little about herself. It’s tempting! But we shouldn’t do that.  Prayer changes everything.

Offer an encouraging word. Remind her that we aren’t perfect, that we are “in this” together, and if she needs help, you are there for her. Let’s build up the body of Christ, not tear it down.

Maybe, this is an opportunity to host weekly prayer or chat sessions.  She may need extra support and prayer during a difficult time. Let the Spirit lead you.

Set up biblically based workshops that will help her move forward in her ministry. Ones that will encourage her, help her develop a new skill and build her confidence.

Have you noticed any of these behaviors in your ministry? What have you done to help the brethren? Will you join me in prayer for all who are struggling right now?

Comment below. I’d love to hear your thoughts.

God bless you & yours,




October is Pastor appreciation month

Every October many congregations in the United States celebrate “Clergy appreciation month”. This is the month when we recognize our pastor’s efforts and his dedication to our respective congregations.

While many celebrate it every year, there are a few who believe that we should celebrate our pastor at any time during the year. That’s fair!

Perhaps, instead of a month of appreciation, the members of the congregation can prayerfully consider supporting their pastor throughout the year. How?

Offer help to your pastor and his family on a weekly or monthly basis. If your pastor is like mine, he will have many unspoken needs. Each family (members) of the congregation can decide which date works best for them. Maybe, the Holy Spirit will lead you to meet a need that he has prayed for. Would you allow God to use you this way?

“Every man according as he purposeth in his heart, so let him give; not grudgingly, or of necessity: for God loveth a cheerful giver.” 2 Corinthians 9:7

Unfortunately, this may not work for all congregations as the number of members at a church varies. However, good for us, there is no one-way to celebrate our pastor. (Tip: keep in mind your pastor’s personality, his likes and hobbies. That should help!)


Here are a few ideas to help you:

  • Hand-made greeting card expressing thanks
  • Gift card to a restaurant or retail store
  • Chocolate and/or flowers
  • Love Offering
  • A meal followed by cake or simply cake will do.
  • Weekend getaway for pastor and spouse
  • Offer to watch the children while they go out on a date.
  • Create a gift basket (using a theme)
  • Commemorative plaque
  • Photo album of significant moments in the past year.
  • Get the children involved:
    • Create greeting cards
    • Children’s choir to perform your pastor’s favorite songs
    • Recite pastor’s favored verses from the Bible
  • Donate monetarily to the church in your pastor’s name
  • Dedicate a special prayer service for pastoral family (Although, we should not forget to pray daily for our pastors.)

These are a few ideas to get you started. Do you have any ideas that you’d like to share? Post below.

God bless you & yours,



Why I launched this blog, “Living in His Purpose”?

Through this blog, “Living in His Purpose”, I will share my journey as a Christian with you. Perhaps, you’re a “newborn Christian” and you’re unsure of what your next steps in your walk will be? Or you are in need of encouragement?

Overall, my goal is to share God’s Truth with you and encourage you in your walk with Jesus.

Becoming a Christian and my passion for Jesus…..

Raised as a Catholic, I believed in God; but I didn’t live as God intended me to live – a Holy Life (1 Thess 4:7). I didn’t give spiritual growth any thought. My sister and I attended Sunday school, and we learned a few Bible stories, did our First Communion, and attended mass on Sundays. However, I was left longing for more and I couldn’t pinpoint it.

After moving out of the city, God led me to a Baptist church in my current town. One that will always be my “home church” as it was the first place where I experienced spiritual growth and Baptism. The feeling I had when I first walked in will always be with me – familial and loving. Exactly what a “family-in-Christ” should be!

It was a time (2010) of many life changes when I decided to accept Jesus as Lord and Savior (Romans 10:9) thus becoming a “newborn Christian” (2 Corinthians 5:17). This occurs when we repent of our sins (Luke 24:47) and vow to follow Jesus (Matthew 16:24). Our sins are forgiven (Acts 3:19-20) and He wipes our slate clean.

During this difficult time, I first recognized my need for a relationship with Christ.

About a year ago, God led me to a Pentecostal church – that was His doing, not mine! Never thought I would form part of this denomination. My plan was to raise my son (at the Baptist church) where I worshiped, and my husband was in agreement. He even considered visiting the church with our son and me! But God’s plans were not my plans and I have to respect that. While many, including myself, don’t understand the reason for this move; we need to obey God. It is difficult to understand the “whys” of God’s plan, but we have to move forward in faith.

As Isaiah 55:8-9 says, “For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, saith the Lord. For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways, and my thoughts than your thoughts.”

I hope that this blog will serve as a medium through which we can encourage each other in our walks with Christ.

Of utmost importance is that we follow the leading of the Holy Spirit.

To God be the glory!



God called you to serve and it’s not what you expected. Now, what?

God has called you to serve in ministry. It’s not what you envisioned, you have no clue where to begin and your heart is not “into it”. Now, what?

You have been chosen and called (1 Sam. 3:8). A few things that you’re sure of: you love God, you desire to serve Him and it’s an honor, but it’s not the place where you want to serve, not the ministry that you want, not the way you want it and not with that group. Well, It’s not what you want; it’s what He wants. The sooner you come to terms with this, the easier it is to take up your ministry and move forward. (Trust me, it is very hard to digest! Almost a year later and I am still struggling to accept that God wants me serving where I am.)

“Let this mind be in you, which was also in Christ Jesus.” Phillipians 2:5

What can you do to make this transition easier? Below are my key takeaways of this experience:

  • Ask God for Confirmation (Isa. 7:11): Has God revealed something to you? Ask Him for a specific sign that only you and Him will know about. You want to be sure that it is He who wants you to proceed with that ministry, move churches, go on that mission trip etc.
  • Obey (Gen. 17:9): As soon as you receive confirmation, make your move. Don’t delay- remember we are on God’s time! We can get bogged down by fear, doubt, “tying up loose ends”, etc. It will never be the right time for you, but in faith make that uncomfortable move and pray. Pray at all times. He will sustain you, just as He did Joshua when he was called to lead the Israelites into the Promised Land ( Jos 1:6-7 ).
  • Be open to change (Deut. 10:16): Change is inevitable,  uncomfortable and each individual handles it differently. Especially, when it is related to a personal decision, such as whereyou worship, it can be very hard. You are leaving your “home” church, this is where you started a relationship with God, and your family-in-Christ is there. How can you ask me to leave all that behind? It hurts and it is hard, but being open to change is a must. It will happen often!
  • Adjust your attitude (Eph. 4:23):  God isn’t changing His plans for you. You are a child of God and you need to obey. It is a long and painful process, but it will be worth it. As hard as it is, do it for His honor and glory. You were made to serve  just like Jesus.
  • Do what you can (Jn 12:1-11): Give your best in all you do for the Lord and do it with a kind and loving attitude (Rom. 14:17-19). It isn’t easy! You can easily get distracted by the amount of work there is to accomplish, the lack of resources, the negative criticism and the difficult people you have to work with. It can become overwhelming to the point where you don’t want to serve anymore! Hang in there (you can do it!) and do what you can. Do what He has called you to do!

I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.” Phillipians 4:13

  • Don’t be discouraged (Jos 1:6-7): You will be criticized. It is harder when it comes from another Christian because you assume that the individual is working as God intended us to, as “one” (1 Pet. 3:8). Don’t let it discourage you! Keep moving forward and do the best you can.
  • Pray,  fast and keep your eyes on Jesus: Do not take your eyes off of Jesus!  Man isn’t perfect and he will disappoint you daily. Lean on Jesus — pray (Matt. 26:41), fast (Isa. 58:6), and read your Bible daily (Jos. 1:8). Your strength lies in your relationship with Jesus! He will equip you (2 Tim. 3:16-17) so that you are able to move forward in His will.

Just like anything else we may pursue, there are challenges, opportunities, and setbacks in ministry. However, we have Jesus. Lean on Him for discernment and understanding so that you can fulfill God’s will for your life.

What have you learned working in ministry? Any tips you’d like to share? Please comment below.

God bless you and yours,